Ten Steps Ahead Podcast

DeShawn: 00:22

Hey, everybody. Welcome to another episode of 10 Steps Ahead. I'm your girl, DeShawn Snow, and we got

Skido: 00:28

Skido in the buildings. 10 Steps Ahead. Love that name, man. I love

DeShawn: 00:32

it too.

Skido: 00:32

I love it, man. That's how I'm moving this game.

DeShawn: 00:35

How you doing?

Skido: 00:35

Man, I'm doing good, D. How are you?

DeShawn: 00:37

I'm doing well. I'm doing well.

Skido: 00:39

Last episode was crazy.

DeShawn: 00:40

It was crazy.

Skido: 00:41

I know we got a little deep a little bit. We're trying to get

DeShawn: 00:44

it all out of it's good. You helped peel back the layers. That's why I love doing this with you because I'm so comfortable with you anyway.

Skido: 00:50

Okay.

DeShawn: 00:50

You know, because anybody else, I wouldn't

Skido: 00:52

I believe

DeShawn: 00:53

be giving them anything.

Skido: 00:54

I'm I'm happy to

DeShawn: 00:55

be So you're my big brother and I know that you love me, so

Skido: 00:57

Absolutely.

DeShawn: 00:58

Just coming from a place

Skido: 00:58

of I want you good, and I'm thankful we wanted to do this podcast.

DeShawn: 01:02

Absolutely. You

Skido: 01:03

know, I'm not into that Hollywood shit too much, but I'm around But

DeShawn: 01:06

now you're starting to get Yeah. And that's what we could talk start it off with, you're starting to become in front of the cameras. So, you've always worked behind the scenes, putting people together, making plays, putting deals together. So now, you found yourself in a couple, like, fantastic opportunities Yes. And it start it's causing you to become forward facing.

Skido: 01:27

Yes.

DeShawn: 01:28

Public facing.

Skido: 01:28

Yes.

DeShawn: 01:29

So how is that transition, and and do you like it?

Skido: 01:35

It's uncomfortable Yeah. Because I like to be comfortable. And me outside your comfort zone. I I could go in the front of a room and do anything and leave. The uncomfortable is me being in the forefront and then everybody coming around me Mhmm.

Skido: 01:51

Because they want something or they need to go some you know, I like to I don't like that. I like to do be at my own pace. Mhmm. I'm gonna be honest with you. I I'm more I can be in a room and tear it up, but I'm quick wanna go home.

Skido: 02:05

Yeah. I go you know, events I go to, you know, meet parties. I have this thing. I'm gonna confess it now since I'm about to go on the forefront. So, when I would go to events, I had this thing.

Skido: 02:16

Maybe I could use it. I would go, y'all invite me? Yo, Skip, why you never come to events? The red carpets and all that. I'm like, yeah, yeah, I'll come.

Skido: 02:22

And I would go, so I would do a circle and what up? What up? And let everybody see me, and then I go out the back door.

DeShawn: 02:29

There you go.

Skido: 02:29

I've been doing that for years. But because it's like you're there, and I'm there for a check. Mhmm. Because the thing that's on my mind is my kids. And then I'm always been like that, you know, driven like that.

Skido: 02:40

Mhmm. Coming from zero and nothing.

DeShawn: 02:42

Right.

Skido: 02:43

And don't know how to turn that off. But let's share it today. I I I'm learning how to balance it because in my driven, I lost a lot. Right. I lost.

Skido: 02:54

Been in relationships, in and out of relationships, and I was, you know, in in

DeShawn: 03:00

Because of your priorities. No.

Skido: 03:01

It's because I'm I don't because of the trauma of having nothing Mhmm. And no stability

DeShawn: 03:06

mindset.

Skido: 03:07

I wanted I knew to sacrifice is to lose. Right. But we sacrifice Time. It ain't about me no more. So, it's about what I'm gonna leave for my daughter and my son and all that.

Skido: 03:19

And, yeah, I missed out on a lot of stuff, but that was the sacrifice of trying to be successful. Mhmm. The hours you put in the travel and all of that, you know, and then that hurt me. Yeah. So at the same time, I I needed to took a long time, but I had it was no balance.

Skido: 03:37

Yeah. And then you go into relationships or let marriage and it don't work because it doesn't match my who I am.

DeShawn: 03:43

Have you ever been you have

Skido: 03:44

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I've been. Oh, you've been married?

Skido: 03:46

Yeah. We could go there. You trying go there? I didn't know that. Second last episode.

Skido: 03:49

No.

DeShawn: 03:49

No. But I I honestly didn't know you've been married.

Skido: 03:51

Yeah. I've been married, man.

DeShawn: 03:53

How long were you married?

Skido: 03:53

I wasn't in it.

DeShawn: 03:54

Was it till your

Skido: 03:56

No. It was yeah. I'm a sound crazy because y'all think it ain't what it is,

DeShawn: 04:00

but Okay.

Skido: 04:00

I got I got

DeShawn: 04:01

We want the tea.

Skido: 04:02

You want yeah. So I've been married twice. What?

DeShawn: 04:06

How do I not

Skido: 04:07

know this? But one was a real one. The other one was suicide mission.

DeShawn: 04:11

What does that mean?

Skido: 04:12

I I didn't it was I was stupid. You know? I got married because it was a girl that happened and not that I I'm a keep it a hundred. I we had a baby out of this situation

DeShawn: 04:27

Okay.

Skido: 04:27

But I love my children, but I didn't know her. You feel

DeShawn: 04:31

me? So you wanted to do the right thing.

Skido: 04:32

But then I wanted to do the right thing because at that time, I tried to I wanted to try to find you know, go to church and do so she knew how to manipulate the situation. Uh-huh. But she knew I didn't love her. She knew a situation where I'm keeping the baby. I can't tell a woman what to keep or not keep.

Skido: 04:47

Right. So I'm like, oh, snap. I don't know you. So but, if you're gonna do it, then I'm gonna be a dad. But, know, I I don't know you.

Skido: 04:56

You know, we'd be in those situations, which is my irresponsibility, of course. But at that time, that was one of the the worst, and I'm not gonna say anything. But I don't speak

DeShawn: 05:05

against Oh, you can't say that's okay. I wouldn't even ask you to.

Skido: 05:08

No. I the my baby's mom my kid's mom. I got two. But but I now want no matter how bad it was and toxic, she's still my mother to my kids. So I Absolutely.

Skido: 05:21

Learned to reverse that, and I don't I have nothing bad to say about her because I still love my children, and that's their mother.

DeShawn: 05:28

So how long were you married both times?

Skido: 05:30

That was the longest one was the that one was years. It was Years. Four, five years. But it was in and out leaving, and I only kept coming back because of my son.

DeShawn: 05:38

Leaving, meaning leaving the marriage?

Skido: 05:40

I was in and out. I was traveling. Was doing it because I wasn't in it. So because I knew I didn't love her, it was that it was it was

DeShawn: 05:46

And you didn't grow to love her?

Skido: 05:47

No. I couldn't. It was because I had loved somebody else. Oh. But before that but she was driven.

Skido: 05:52

So it was a long it's a long story.

DeShawn: 05:53

It's a triangle?

Skido: 05:54

Yeah. No. Triangle. It was before. She left

DeShawn: 05:57

to be

Skido: 05:59

career driven.

DeShawn: 06:00

Okay.

Skido: 06:00

And and I got prior, like, what's up? Because I was a different dude back then. You know what I'm saying? You know, God has changed me around in different ways. But I was driven, and she left to do a career in New York.

Skido: 06:12

And I was like, well, if you leave it, you leave. But at that same time, she didn't really leave. She went to New York and she was hanging out with my mother. I didn't know all of this. I was so stubborn, and I had a situation, and they did a surprise party for me one time in New York, and I had my business, this gym business, the first gym in Edgewater, Florida.

Skido: 06:29

You know, I was learning when I got to Florida, all these great things started happening to me, working my way up. And when I went to New York, and they surprised, and she was there, her mink coat, she was rich and, you know, beautiful and Italian, and she was my mother, loved her, she's Puerto Rican. But I didn't know, I was like and then the girl I was with, she was just riding up to New York with me to chill. It was just a friend, I didn't touch her. So when I said, yo, come upstairs, I was surprised she's standing there.

Skido: 06:54

So I see my ex, and she's like, Yeah, we're coming home. I'll be with your mother, and I'll you know, I said, I don't know what you're talking about.

DeShawn: 07:02

Oh, so you was

Skido: 07:03

in your And didn't even say it. I was so prideful. I'm gonna tell you this dumb story. I said, my mother looked at me, my mama ain't here till she said, Come here, mosquito. What are you doing?

Skido: 07:12

Because I don't know who you're talking about. You're being hard headed and you're gonna mess up. Don't do it. But I was so hurt from her leaving. Oh.

Skido: 07:19

At that moment, I wasn't hearing nothing. So in that moment, I was mad and I I just let her, like, I don't know. So she was

DeShawn: 07:26

So you fumbled?

Skido: 07:27

Yeah. I fumbled because I was acting hard headed. Yeah. And my mother knew what you're talking about. And my cousin Tony, who you meet, he's crazy.

DeShawn: 07:33

Yeah. Love Tony.

Skido: 07:34

You know, he's like, yo. Because she was rich or whatever. She's like, because I don't care about money and I don't care about she's like, he's like, yo, we out the hood. It's because. He's like, hilarious.

Skido: 07:43

You know, Tony. Yeah. Like, because, I don't care about that. I got a girl. And everybody's looking at her.

Skido: 07:47

We never heard of this girl, but I just used that to her So,

DeShawn: 07:50

was that the second wife, the girl you was talking about?

Skido: 07:52

Yeah. That's the one. The last one I had was I messed that up. That was the one my daughter, Rose. She

DeShawn: 07:58

was a

Skido: 07:59

good woman.

DeShawn: 08:00

But now, so now you're not married, but you are in

Skido: 08:03

a I'm in a great relationship.

DeShawn: 08:05

Yeah. I love Mia.

Skido: 08:06

This this you know, I don't know why I'm on here. Don't want her to get emotional shit. But at the end of the day, she she we was friends, but it took a break because I had my youngest son, it was like it's like you said, a traditional generational curse. Mhmm. And I saw myself from my last one, son Mateo, you know, that's my baby, he's six, that I'm doing this pattern of getting into relationships, and and then I have a kid, and they'd be like, yo, but then I love kids.

Skido: 08:36

Yeah. So I'm like but after that didn't work out, because I was still driven and she was used to being she needed somebody home, like a nine to five, that's not me. Yeah. So, me being gone, she just couldn't take that. And it just happened.

Skido: 08:50

She's a great mother

DeShawn: 08:51

Mhmm.

Skido: 08:51

School teacher. So, that's my I said, okay, this got that's it. So, I went I went I did a what we call that? I'm sorry.

DeShawn: 08:59

Fast.

Skido: 09:00

I did a fast, and then I I was celibate celibate. That's the word? Mhmm. Yeah. Fast.

Skido: 09:06

I did that for a year a year, and then at that time, when I didn't no sex, no nothing, this shit started to go, my business. This shit was crazy. But I was

DeShawn: 09:17

so locked

Skido: 09:19

in that it was it was like, I didn't the time wasn't I didn't see time or concentrated on sex. Because I didn't want to just lay with nobody no more.

DeShawn: 09:28

Mhmm.

Skido: 09:28

Because when you do that shit, it pulls something out of you, which we call it a soul tie. Yes. That's why people are acting crazy because they're sleeping around all these different people. Facts. You're pulling for her craziness, he's pulling for so every soul you lay down with is becoming part of you.

Skido: 09:42

And what happens is you start acting a fool. That's why people can't get out of that.

DeShawn: 09:46

Yeah. That's a cycle.

Skido: 09:47

So, I had to fast. So, when I fast, I eliminate. And I said, God, the next person you bring in my life, please let it be the one, because I'm off driven, it gotta make sense. Mhmm. And then I just went off a fad for a year.

Skido: 10:00

In that time, Mia was already we was all friends, So, we already knew each other, and it just happened organically. Know what I'm saying?

DeShawn: 10:06

That's the best. Was But

Skido: 10:10

I'm still off balance. I'm hard to deal with. Say things, and I think it's I think I got I know I do, I got a lot of trauma, everybody know that. I confess it. I know they said that CTE when football plays and all, I got that too, I know I got that I got a lot of stuff.

Skido: 10:26

So, my impulses of how I talk, you could be offended. But I'm really it's nothing, it's just at that moment

DeShawn: 10:33

It's a program.

Skido: 10:34

It's just something I'm trying to

DeShawn: 10:36

Break.

Skido: 10:36

Break, but I can't control it. And then but I don't like to be messed with, I don't like to be I like my own way sometimes, and, you know, little things. So it's So

DeShawn: 10:45

you gotta be a special person to deal

Skido: 10:47

with You gotta be different. You gotta have a personality, and you can't be sensitive with me. But when you hear me, you'll laugh like, dude, what the f did you just say to me? I'm like, listen, did I you talk too much. So I'll just say things, people like, in the middle of a conversation, and I'll be like, is she like, are you listening to me?

Skido: 11:05

I'm like, no, because my you burning my ears, man. I can't focus. So you usually try to be sensitive to those things. So she cracks up. So and there's a lot of things, you know, we battled and stuff.

Skido: 11:17

But I did you know, one time, she'll tell a story, I left her. I left because she was she was bothering me while I was trying to eat my strawberry puff. Right? So, I'm eating my puff. This is true story.

Skido: 11:29

You guys are my family. So I'm eating my puff, and we getting along with each other. It's cute. Now, this friend's thing is different. She's like this.

Skido: 11:36

So she got this little expensive couch, real expensive. So you know the puff stuff drops on

DeShawn: 11:41

the Oh, her couch. Does she get charged You

Skido: 11:43

know, I start wiping it. I got manners. You know, I'm wiping it. And she's like, so this is what we're doing? I'm like, what?

Skido: 11:50

She's like, so you're just gonna wipe it? So I'm like, I don't know this side of her. I'm like, man, I'm sorry. I'm trying to enjoy this puck because when I'm hungry, I'm off. You know, I gotta eat.

DeShawn: 12:00

Yes. I know.

Skido: 12:00

Don't bother me when I'm eating. Let me eat before we do anything. So she wiping. I'm like, damn, being so nice. You know, I'm I'm real cool.

Skido: 12:08

Like, what's that? That's Yeah, you're real cool. But it is, it's very expensive, know what I'm And she just went into this little thing. Now

DeShawn: 12:13

It could have been a trigger.

Skido: 12:15

One yeah. But that trigger's got nothing to do. Don't bring that trigger shit to me. And I cut, I said, oh, okay. She started talking, all of a sudden, she started going, that's me.

Skido: 12:25

I'll act like you ain't there. I'm good at that shit. I looked at her, said, really? I enjoyed my puff. I ate the rest of that thing.

Skido: 12:32

It was crumming. I'm wiping it, and I got quiet. And this was at the beginning, and she's like, you know, she okay, okay. She just you know, sometimes. I said, didn't I tell you don't mess with me?

Skido: 12:42

Don't I'm not I'm different. I'm not that I'm a good dude, but you can't do it with I can't I don't know how to do that. Yeah. So, fast forward, she did it, and the next day I didn't say nothing the whole day, and I sat there, and my plane was at 5PM. I went to the airport at 11:00.

DeShawn: 13:00

In a morning?

Skido: 13:00

She goes, Can I take you to the airport? Know, the next day you act like you're not in a normal. I'm like, no. So you're just gonna go to the airport and wait in there for six hours? Absolutely.

Skido: 13:09

To get the hell away from you. That's keto. I don't give a shit about none of that shit. I did that. In her mind so I'm thinking I'm back in the lab chilling.

Skido: 13:19

So I guess she's like, how can this thing did grow. She's calling her friends and all that. That's what she's telling me. Yeah. She said this and she said, they were like, Mia, he don't give a shit who you are, what you got.

Skido: 13:32

Because she's a powerful attorney, she's money you got, man's a man. He sent over the cocoa puff, the strawberry puff, I'm out of here. He ain't with that shit. And that's what you've been looking for. He ain't gonna tolerate that shit because iron sharpens iron.

Skido: 13:49

Yeah. And that's what we do. You know what I'm saying? And and and in that case, I left and I tried to get rid of her, and she made a call, and she said, know what And five days she it was five days later, she thought I was gonna call her. I'm done.

Skido: 14:02

She called myself.

DeShawn: 14:03

Just like that.

Skido: 14:03

Oh, you didn't call me because I'm done. And then that's what happened. And then she came and got me and

DeShawn: 14:10

The rest of the

Skido: 14:11

she said, okay. Can I come see you? Said, nah. I was trying to cut her off. She was like, she was weaving, ducking and weaving.

Skido: 14:16

I'm trying I don't think it's gonna work. She flew down the next day, she put you know how y'all do? Y'all put on a little bodysuit and shit, you know, came all sexy, all her hair done. I said, what kind of cat woman shit is this going on? She came out the thing like a goddess.

Skido: 14:31

I'm like, alright. We can talk. And then I I I've been with her ever since.

DeShawn: 14:35

Oh, man. That's beautiful.

Skido: 14:37

Yeah. I sit on that. But it's more crazy. But we're going through our trials and tribulations.

DeShawn: 14:41

It's learning.

Skido: 14:42

It's communication. She's hard. She been through shit with bullshit people and a lot of stuff she's hurt from. Mhmm. And then I'm I'm Skeeto.

Skido: 14:51

Because I'm like, y'all don't compare me to that and who they are.

DeShawn: 14:53

That's true.

Skido: 14:53

I'm not and when you start doing that, it

DeShawn: 14:55

offends Skeeto.

Skido: 14:56

But I had to bring the offensive down.

DeShawn: 14:58

Yeah. Because that person I learned

Skido: 14:59

to be a little bit more sensitive.

DeShawn: 15:01

And graceful.

Skido: 15:01

That's the stuff I've been working. Yeah. Being more sensitive to people.

DeShawn: 15:05

And so did you find that she had a guard up? Because I know you always say, I have a guard up.

Skido: 15:09

She said she didn't, and then when she got triggered, it would come up. But I would but I'm such a real person, I don't hold nothing in my head. I can't, it'll build up, I go crazy. So I'm like, you do. So she'll argue with it, like how you was dancing around the other day, and I'll go

DeShawn: 15:22

I'll some dancing.

Skido: 15:23

No, no, you know, kick know what I'm talking about, what you want me? But I I'm like this, no, that's what it is. And I'm not gonna I'm not scared to tell you anything because it's real, it's in front of me. Yeah. And then she couldn't face that to the point where she's, I'm okay, when you wasn't okay.

DeShawn: 15:38

Yeah.

Skido: 15:39

So, she broke that. Yeah. She started breaking up.

DeShawn: 15:41

So she started feeling comfortable and she trusted you and all that and let the guard down.

Skido: 15:44

Yeah. People took advantage of her, people used to you know, that happens. And and you know that, and that hurt her. Yeah. And she was hurt.

Skido: 15:51

And that how we deal without hurt, we try to bury and say we okay when it's a lie.

DeShawn: 15:54

Well, it takes a long time.

Skido: 15:55

It takes a long time. So, we went through our things, but she could deal with me, and my family loves her. She went to the wedding, had Puerto Rican and black on both sides, and they came telling me, don't mess it up. My family's just like me, the girls are stronger than the dudes, you know what I'm saying? And I was like, what?

Skido: 16:11

I didn't even she's like, don't mess with me. Love Mia. So, that was a good sign. My kids love her, and she she she's and I met her Her family's beautiful. And I needed a family oriented person because I'm really about family.

Skido: 16:23

Yeah. I'm really about family. And then when I'm your friend, I treat you like family. Yep. That people know me, you know, on that note.

DeShawn: 16:30

So, because we were you and I were talking about, like, as you say, I'm rough around the edges. Mhmm. I see myself as refined. But you said and I don't think I have my guard up, but you say that I do, or you say that you can because

Skido: 16:45

you asked me. I didn't start

DeShawn: 16:47

talking about No, said something to Yes. Because I always come to you. Yeah. Because I ask you the questions like, well, what's what is this guy thinking, what does this mean? Because I can't figure it out.

DeShawn: 16:56

And I ask you, because you a man, and I know you'll tell me the truth, and you tell me the truth.

Skido: 17:00

Well, what you mean by so you have these situations, what you mean? What you mean, what this mean?

DeShawn: 17:04

Well, like, we were talking about.

Skido: 17:05

No. Now, forget what we talking about. Yeah. What they what what was he talking about? What was he

DeShawn: 17:09

No, but you were saying that I have a guard up. Mhmm. And I feel that I don't have a guard up. Okay. So, you tell me, like, why do you sense that I have a guard up?

DeShawn: 17:17

Because I feel like, remember I told you, I feel like, if I'm smiling and, you know, that's like invite, I'm inviting you, like, to say You

Skido: 17:24

know the same with you ever see somebody smile at you and they're looking at you like they hate you?

DeShawn: 17:29

But are you saying

Skido: 17:29

That that it's tough I could do this. That's that.

DeShawn: 17:32

That's what I'm doing? That's

Skido: 17:34

because you just you just try to use your teeth to block everything else. And you got beautiful teeth, but what we feel as men is one another thing.

DeShawn: 17:43

So I'm excluding

Skido: 17:44

blocking what's on you. You know what I'm saying? You got your beauty from the outside, but it's it's almost it's not like it's fake, it's like it's rough. It's like something you hiding. It's it's something as a man, we have different instincts.

DeShawn: 17:57

Mhmm.

Skido: 17:58

So it's like it's like, what the fuck is going on? What's wrong with her? I see her TV shining, she's beautiful, but she got still a look of a cold, like like, if you mess with me, I'll bust you on your knee, like

DeShawn: 18:10

That's that's what I'm giving.

Skido: 18:12

I told you that. You wanna keep it real. What you talking about?

DeShawn: 18:15

Because I just can't see myself giving that.

Skido: 18:16

And I think that that part is a lot of women out there like that. Not that you ready, but you gotta there's there's still a a kind of a wall, a shield up.

DeShawn: 18:25

Like, try

Skido: 18:26

So so men, they feel some men, I don't give a shit. Some people, they're good men that are strong like me that don't care, could fight through the wall. But that's like not a lot.

DeShawn: 18:35

It's not a lot because it's not like it's a lot of

Skido: 18:37

people. But you with that wall, it's gonna be like, well, you get them on eggshells almost. Even though you're showing your teeth, they still feeling that. It don't feel comfortable for them to keep to go over. I'm not saying you keep thinking it's you, but that's the one part I could say I feel.

DeShawn: 18:52

Yeah. No, so that's helpful because I wasn't aware of that. Like, I feel like I don't have a wall. I feel like I do I feel like I'm open.

Skido: 19:02

Okay. You can feel what you want. Tell me what it is.

DeShawn: 19:04

I feel like that I am open, though. Yeah. You know what saying?

Skido: 19:07

What you're doing, you're feeling it, but you But

DeShawn: 19:11

I'm not exuding it, so I don't really know how to change So

Skido: 19:13

you ask me, as your brother, you go, Yo, Ski, tell me from that perspective, then I'm giving you from the man's perspective what I feel and see. So I'm like, it ain't make it ain't make a lot of you think all men are confident.

DeShawn: 19:26

Not all men are Yeah, that's what I'm interested. You said, you'll you'll tackle the wall or whatever. Like, I'm I'm not that's what I want, somebody I mean, I don't want to give up the wall. I mean, I don't want to have a wall up, so I will figure out figure that out.

Skido: 19:39

I know. No. What it is is what you want might not be the same thing. Like, you know, everything you ask for is that God's gonna bring you what you you can say what you want, but he's gonna give you what you need.

DeShawn: 19:48

Right.

Skido: 19:48

But you gotta define what you know, if start putting people in categories and you start, oh, well, want that oh, that's not right. I'm gonna do this. You're it's already like it's too much. Mhmm. So, you know, in the midst of that, it's too much.

Skido: 20:02

Man, feel that. It's just too much. It's heavy on Yeah. You give a look. You got this look, d.

Skido: 20:08

When you look, that look. That that look to the side. My mother used to give me that look. I thought I was in trouble. Right?

Skido: 20:13

She was like, but that was a different look. That look, I'm a bust you in your mouth if you say another word. You got that no, that's what my mother used to have that look. But you got that look where you could be talking to somebody and you just lean and you don't see it. That might be the Detroit in you.

Skido: 20:26

I don't know.

DeShawn: 20:27

No. Maybe because I am like, it depends on what they're saying, I guess. Yeah. If I see past the BS.

Skido: 20:33

Yeah. But it's cool. You know, it's just you just

DeShawn: 20:34

I wanna work on that.

Skido: 20:35

Yeah. Because I don't want And you're doing good. I wanna

DeShawn: 20:37

be open.

Skido: 20:38

Yeah. You're doing good. I feel like I have Yeah. You're around good people. You got support.

Skido: 20:42

Yeah. You know what I'm saying? But everything is good.

DeShawn: 20:44

Okay.

Skido: 20:45

Yeah, man. But, you know, let's get to this topics and

DeShawn: 20:47

stuff, man.

Skido: 20:48

Let's ride this

DeShawn: 20:48

So let's talk about some hot topics. What about I know I mean, we're not gonna be giving a lot of names, but clearly you are, like, everybody's man, you know what I'm saying? In terms of, like, celebrity, you know, everybody's your boy, you've got

Skido: 21:00

this Not everybody, but I know

DeShawn: 21:01

you're for most part, all the major people, you're in the behind the scenes or whatever. So, let's talk about some of the stuff that's going on

Skido: 21:08

in The

DeShawn: 21:09

thing going on? Okay. What do you I know you're real good with Rock Nation.

Skido: 21:13

Okay. Yeah.

DeShawn: 21:15

It felt

Skido: 21:15

It's like family, like, it's they're good people.

DeShawn: 21:17

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So what do you think about so Kanye, you know, clearly he's off his meds. Uh-huh.

DeShawn: 21:21

So I guess he was talking about Jay Z and Beyonce's kids, which is always a no no, you never talk about somebody's kids. Mhmm. How do you feel about that? Because do you because you you know, that's family.

Skido: 21:31

So Yeah. Well, that's how Jay feel about that at the end of the day. Me? I I I don't play that. I clear all that up on, you know, I don't play don't ever play with me with my kids.

Skido: 21:43

Right. All bets are off. So that's things you don't do. There's things you don't play with people's family, their mother, you know, you don't do that. I don't care what meds he's on.

Skido: 21:53

He's doing this thing for attention. Me personally, on sight, he getting knocked out. Not I don't play like that. And then you bringing me back to a whole and everybody know, do not play with me like that. So I know but Jay gotta watch.

Skido: 22:07

I know Jay probably saying on-site, I wanna punch him in his mouth, but but he's an icon, he gotta watch it. You know what I'm saying? And Kanye knows that. And Kanye's a genius, and I love Kanye. I love all see how I clear that up?

Skido: 22:20

It's not about hate. Mhmm. But don't play like that. Mhmm. Because when people were playing with your kids, you went off.

DeShawn: 22:25

Yeah.

Skido: 22:26

So now you twisting it, you're being a hypocrite. So it's and I like, I love his genius. God bless him. I hope God delivers him. But don't don't do what you don't want done to your kids.

DeShawn: 22:35

Right.

Skido: 22:36

And that's the line you don't cross, and there's no coming back for it.

DeShawn: 22:38

There's no grace.

Skido: 22:40

There's no which are you crazy? You don't play with you don't know

DeShawn: 22:43

what you're dealing No, I'm kids crossing the line.

Skido: 22:44

You understand?

DeShawn: 22:45

Okay. Alright. So, tell me about because, you know, we kind of talked about this. I don't know about it. Big U?

DeShawn: 22:52

Something about somebody gotta pay money when they come to LA? What's all that about?

Skido: 22:56

What's going on with the thing with Big U? I don't

DeShawn: 22:59

know him,

Skido: 22:59

but he's out the LA?

DeShawn: 23:00

Yes. It says somebody gotta check-in. The athletes and stuff gotta check-in. I like, I never

Skido: 23:06

heard of that. You never heard of checking in? No. Yeah. Didn't.

DeShawn: 23:08

Like, I don't think my ex checked in.

Skido: 23:11

Why would you think your man's gonna tell you, I gotta check-in with another man? There's some things men ain't gonna tell their women.

DeShawn: 23:17

Yeah. I just never heard

Skido: 23:18

Like, check-in is in LA, they have this thing. I never I don't know what that is to me. To me, I don't go by those rules.

DeShawn: 23:25

Right.

Skido: 23:25

Not that I'm not tough or none. I just don't move like that. But these basketball players and these athletes that wanna be tough and they wanna claim blood, and this is when they get trapped in it. Now you're dealing with some real gangsters out there. So since you wanna represent my set, now you gotta pay a fee.

Skido: 23:42

You understand? Oh, Chris, you are blood? Oh, little Wayne, you are blood. You see how they catching them. This is this is something I'm saying, this is live.

Skido: 23:49

Mhmm. But I know these people. You know what I'm saying? Mhmm. I know Chico Brown, and they're from These are friends of mine.

Skido: 23:56

Don't associate with that, but these are my people. I know the rules. There's rules in LA, there's rules in New York, there's rules in Chicago. And if you claim it sets and gangs, and they're going to bring you in that gang, oh, you cutting a check. That's why you see these celebrities and athletes running around like tough guys, but they're paying the fee.

Skido: 24:16

They're not going to tell you that, that's called checking. And when these rappers go to these shows, they they extort who they could extort. Not saying they got everybody like that. Yeah. You ain't got no Jay like that.

Skido: 24:26

You ain't got no Fat Joe like that. Right. Because they they get down like everybody else was around them. I know that. You know what I'm saying?

Skido: 24:32

You ain't gotta have me. I'll get down as different. There's you ain't checking me. But these wannabes, and they wanna be down, and they wanna claim blood and crips and blues and reds and blacks, you gotta pay a fee for that.

DeShawn: 24:45

I didn't even because I heard about it, but I was like, that sound like a movie.

Skido: 24:48

No. That's for real. That's going down now. If Big U ain't gonna do it, it's gonna be somebody else doing it. Got Because there's always somebody trying to be something they're not, and that's when you'll be trapped in your own circle.

DeShawn: 24:58

Facts.

Skido: 24:58

And that's what goes on with these celebrities and rappers. They wanna be around killers when they're not a killer.

DeShawn: 25:19

Gonna be forward facing in front of the camera. Yeah. And so so to speak, camera. But how do you how do you handle when people who was you're always giving love, showing love, supporting, and then now that you're in front, for the people that's not supporting.

Skido: 25:35

Oh, that's gonna happen. But the thing I love about me and people that know me, I don't live for people, because they don't there's and I'm not saying this in a bad I'm not a people pleaser. Yeah. I'm zero that. Even my me and said, oh my god, you're really the opposite of that.

Skido: 25:52

But I don't so what what I don't I don't have I don't have a people pleaser mentality, so nothing doesn't bother me. I expect what people are gonna do. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. With success comes love and hate.

Skido: 26:03

But either way, I still don't care. Mhmm. Skeeto's still gonna do Skeeto. Yeah. Long as it's not personal with me or you messing with my family, it's cool.

Skido: 26:11

You know what saying?

DeShawn: 26:12

But what if it's somebody's close? I mean, you wouldn't hurt your Yeah. Yeah.

Skido: 26:16

That that's their insecurity and don't spirits, they deal with jealousy, envy, strife. Those are demons in them. I don't deal entertain the devil like that.

DeShawn: 26:24

But do you get hurt? I guess maybe because

Skido: 26:25

you're a I'm not built like that.

DeShawn: 26:27

Yeah.

Skido: 26:27

That's the other thing. I don't get hurt, but I'm I'm learning to be sensitive.

DeShawn: 26:31

Okay.

Skido: 26:32

You know I'm saying? So, what bothers you don't bother me. What hurts him don't hurt me. Mhmm. Because I'm it's like that.

Skido: 26:38

Now, if you personally attacking me, you coming at me, then that's a different situation I'm a deal with you like. But when you freedom to speak across the street, okay, he's over there. He's on the Internet. Can't control what you can't control.

DeShawn: 26:51

Yeah. No, that's a good way.

Skido: 26:53

You know

DeShawn: 26:53

I'm saying? I'm looking at things.

Skido: 26:54

That's just how I am. God bless America.

DeShawn: 26:56

Amen. So, also, what's big about you, and I see it all the time, is like the power of relationships.

Skido: 27:03

Yeah. Yeah.

DeShawn: 27:04

I think a lot of people don't realize, you know, they want what's in front of them, they don't see the big picture. Yeah. And sometimes it's not about, like, the deal that's right there on the table, it's about establishing a relationship

Skido: 27:15

Absolutely.

DeShawn: 27:15

And all of that. So speak to how you've gotten all your success because of your relationships, or how you utilize relationships.

Skido: 27:23

I think relationship I I move like that. So if I take a relationship, you know, I'm helping people. You know, like, if it's let's say Even value. I'm becoming an athlete or something, I'm there. Sometimes, no matter how good you are, somebody's always thinking something wrong.

Skido: 27:38

Why are you doing this? What do you want? I get that, because people take advantage it. I'm not that. So, I I I kind of show them before I do anything.

Skido: 27:46

Let me show you what I do, then we'll talk about whatever later. Because then when you show them and how you move, it's more of a trust understanding. Mhmm. You know what saying? So, I like to

DeShawn: 27:55

So, it's not just talk.

Skido: 27:56

I don't do all the talk, I bring them straight to the table. Mhmm. And then, that talk is different after you do that. Like, ski, a lot of people was talking, but you did it. That's what put me in this position, now that I'm saying I'm coming out, being a stellar this new shoe that's coming out, this new croc that's about to hit the airwaves this And all I can't the next episode's gonna be crazy.

Skido: 28:16

When I tell you who's lined up with it, the celebrities that's part of this shoe, this Japanese designer that came, first thing I did, I said, this is out of here. So I feel like I'm I'm part of the new group like Facebook and Bill Gates, you know that circle? I said, God, I must have did something right, because now I got this Japanese designer who who I'm now his right hand man. Was his consultant becoming a CEO. It leads like that.

Skido: 28:41

And that's from putting on the work and giving my heart to everybody through the years. I feel it's just my time. And you're reaping it. And I'm reaping

DeShawn: 28:47

Mhmm. This is your takeover phase.

Skido: 28:49

This is my takeover thing. You know what saying? And on that note, just like you, with your takeover thing, I just want you to you know, me, you working on what's what's you working on? You know, the things you was telling me about. Tell me about that.

Skido: 29:01

See, I'm hype but see me, I'm always feeling it and I always wanna hear it too. That's because it makes me happy to see other people happy. But tell me, you're new and approved self, slim rock. You're on your cut ripped. I'm like

DeShawn: 29:12

I'm big on this wellness journey, because, know, for about thirteen months, I was I've lost about fifty fifty one pounds. Wow. A little bit more than 50 pounds. But, you know, my all my numbers were through the roof, like my blood pressure, my cholesterol, had abnormal EKG and all this stuff. You know, EJ just got married.

Skido: 29:28

Okay.

DeShawn: 29:29

So I knew he was getting married, and was like, you know, I wanna have some grandkids and all of that, so I gotta take this serious. So my motivation if your why is big enough, you'll endure anyhow. So my why was my health. I've been up and down in weight all the time my whole life. So but this time, you know, my why is stronger.

DeShawn: 29:47

So I went on this journey, and I love it. And so now, I'm at the maintaining stage, but now I'm building and I'm doing my core you know, I'm strengthening my core and all that. But what I'm doing is trying to inspire others. So, I think by sharing my journey, they're being inspired by it to do to make changes for themselves as well. So, it's not about being a size, it's just about being the most healthiest you can be.

DeShawn: 30:07

Okay.

Skido: 30:08

And it's

DeShawn: 30:08

not about being skinny, it's about being strong. So I'm big into the weight training and all that. So I'm gonna do these exclusive workout meetups, these wellness retreats. Like, I'm I'm all in on it, because I think health is wealth. Okay.

DeShawn: 30:18

And really mind, body, soul.

Skido: 30:20

Okay. So what so and then okay. So all of that, and then we go into so you prepping yourself for your new man, and you're like

DeShawn: 30:28

Yeah. Always. Always. Yeah. So I I feel I am a wife.

DeShawn: 30:32

Mhmm. You know what I'm saying? I don't know why I've not been married yet again. But I think

Skido: 30:37

Well, this is why we're

DeShawn: 30:38

not say anything. All these reasons why. In my mind, I don't know, but I guess there's reasons. But that's okay. God has the right person for me, the right timing.

Skido: 30:48

So let me ask you something. You and your boss things and all that. What are you look mean, besides the health of wealth, which is healthy, because people be unbalanced based on how they're eating and doing that. That's true. Right?

Skido: 30:58

But you got some business things and some ideas and shows that you're creating that's gonna Oh, yeah. For sure. Mhmm. You know, talk about that. What's I mean, you got some ideas I know you got because you've been on the reality show.

Skido: 31:08

Constantly pitch. I got

DeShawn: 31:09

a lot of ideas Yeah. That's coming. Real estate because I'm in real estate, know, I'm a global real estate adviser, so I got a lot of things that we're pitching. So you'll hopefully see me on the stage. But it's all about lifestyle and wellness.

Skido: 31:20

Okay.

DeShawn: 31:21

Everything relating to that.

Skido: 31:22

So you got your you got so I'm gonna ask you something. Okay. So you got we in a sports game. Your son plays football, right? Yep.

Skido: 31:28

And I and I've been working with a lot of NFL young kids coming out, and I'm trying to teach them how to be CEOs and brands because they only know football. How do you get them for the next level? All the politics in the industry is the same as the sports. Absolutely. I mean, it's bad.

Skido: 31:42

You know what it is. How do you protect them? What do you think about that?

DeShawn: 31:45

So he's really, really close with his father. Okay. And so, like, I'm not even involved in that aspect of it. Okay. I they he that is his right hand man, so Okay.

DeShawn: 31:55

He doesn't share most most of it, but I know he has a good head on his shoulders. Darius is very driven. So even though he has another year left of eligibility, he already has his master's. Wow. So he graduated with his undergrad in three years and then got his master's two years later.

DeShawn: 32:10

Wow. This is his last season. He had that injury, so this is he's back and he's healthy, so this is his year, so we're excited about it. But, Darius is very focused, he's, he's had a strong foundation as far as his faith and all of that, so he'll be fine. But he's moving in those things now, So I know he's dealing with the with the NIL and all that

Skido: 32:30

Oh, yeah.

DeShawn: 32:30

And the politics of it all.

Skido: 32:31

Okay. So dad's teasing me

DeShawn: 32:33

Dad is like, I can't even get

Skido: 32:34

in because they have I got it. I that. You mom, that's cool. But he he been in the game, so that's good.

DeShawn: 32:39

Yeah. So I'll be trying to

Skido: 32:40

find You know what I wanted to ask you? I know I'm not we're not political here.

DeShawn: 32:43

Mhmm. Absolutely.

Skido: 32:44

But, what do you feel about our new president, Donald Trump?

DeShawn: 32:46

I don't feel anything. I don't I don't what like, so my family like, we have these group chats and they I have two people in my family, they would go down a rabbit hole always sending all this stuff. I'm like, yo, y'all set your own group chat with that, because it's just he's too much. Okay. I don't I don't agree with the stuff he's a lot of stuff he's doing.

DeShawn: 33:04

So, I mean, but I do realize I do need to pay attention so I can know what's going on, but I just I can't even stand to look at him. Don't even watch him.

Skido: 33:12

I got you. I I I like Donald Trump.

DeShawn: 33:15

You do?

Skido: 33:15

Yeah. I do. I like him. Not the crazy stuff. Yeah.

Skido: 33:19

This is this is

DeShawn: 33:20

the What about all this cutting department education and all that

Skido: 33:23

other stuff? Let me let me give you the breakdown

DeShawn: 33:24

of Headstart.

Skido: 33:25

Of how why I like Donald Trump. Okay. Let's go back

DeShawn: 33:28

Okay.

Skido: 33:28

To 911, where I'm in New York City. Right?

DeShawn: 33:31

That's right. Okay.

Skido: 33:32

So I have friends and family that friends that have friends that have died in So you gotta picture this. So when that when when the terrorist attack hit New York, it was the most saddest lost thing in the world. I can see the Twin Towers from my grandmother's house on 128 Allen Street in New York City. I grew up on that fire escape watching that in rainy days. When people would jump in the fire and holding hands and and hitting the floor, it was horrible.

DeShawn: 33:58

Yeah.

Skido: 33:58

It made me so angry. But at that time, it was a lot of politics with different presidents. I felt that was very bold by these other countries. And I felt our presidents are more negotiating with them, being nice, and the other countries don't respect us. And I know, I think they've all been too soft, and that's why they were able to do all this terrorist attack.

Skido: 34:21

They crossed lines and then did deals with these people. I'm not jumping the gun. So now, I know Donald's off, he's a billionaire. I liked him before he was a president because people thought he was funny, he was straight out. You don't tell him what to do.

Skido: 34:34

Mhmm. But when I see him monkey gripping that, walking in the thing and pushing that dude behind him, man, get behind me. Strong arming them other leaders, that's a different that's America coming back. Not I'm not I'm not in agreeing on his ways, but we're not soft. Mhmm.

Skido: 34:52

They crossed lines. They've been crossing lines with other presidents. Donald's stopping all that. You ain't gonna come do what you wanna do and I wish you would. We've always been the toughest in the country.

Skido: 35:01

We became the softest. So me protecting what's mine, my country

DeShawn: 35:06

No.

Skido: 35:07

Hold is that. Now, do I agree with a lot of crazy? Donald just say crazy stuff, but do I like how the when the other country and president think twice before they mess with us Mhmm. Because they know Donald is gonna go will get in their ass. That's the part I like.

DeShawn: 35:22

Okay.

Skido: 35:23

You feel me? To protect us. See, y'all caught up in rights and wrongs, but they sending terrorist attacks trying to kill us. So y'all caught up on the little things, and Donald's like, man, get behind me. You see him in them things.

Skido: 35:34

He said, what's wrong with Donald? He tripping, he pushing the president, grabbing their hands like that? That's like man up type. You're not gonna do what you're gonna do with the mother presidents. I wish you would do something.

Skido: 35:45

That's the part I love about Donald. Now, the other stuff, I'm like, needs it. He crazy. But protecting us, and and on that right, of these people crossing lines, I'm still mad about that nine one one.

DeShawn: 35:57

Yeah. Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know that

Skido: 35:59

you No, even that's for us. It ain't just New York. For sure. That's for all of us. You know what I'm saying?

Skido: 36:03

That hit our economy. That that was a mark.

DeShawn: 36:06

I remember it.

Skido: 36:07

We don't give a shit about y'all. They they never crossed that much line over. We didn't you know, I'm not saying nothing's wrong or right. They was they hit the maker. Yeah.

Skido: 36:17

And that was you what I'm saying? So down that part.

DeShawn: 36:20

Okay.

Skido: 36:20

You know what I'm saying? But we got a lot of stuff.

DeShawn: 36:22

Real good.

Skido: 36:22

Yes. This is the warm up thing, but when we're get one or two more episodes, when we get these guests coming, these celebrities, it's gonna be crazy.

DeShawn: 36:30

Crazy, crazy. Because we're all about you know, we want the stories behind the stories. Yes. And we're all about because our journeys are different, but it's still the same, and we're all about restoration and redemption.

Skido: 36:40

Yeah.

DeShawn: 36:40

So And there's power in relationships.

Skido: 36:42

Yeah. And I like where you at right now.

DeShawn: 36:44

Thank you.

Skido: 36:45

You strong. You all

DeShawn: 36:45

nailed it. I'm open too. Right? So that's what I like. Can tell me.

Skido: 36:48

It works perfect for us. So we able to be ourselves, talk real talk. We getting ready for the guests.

DeShawn: 36:55

That's right.

Skido: 36:55

So we're doing the warm up before the guests, and I think that's gonna be amazing. 10 Steps Ahead.

DeShawn: 37:00

10 Steps Ahead. I can't Alright. We'll catch you guys on the next episode. Stay We're

Skido: 37:05

going to 10 Steps Ahead. It's a brand new show. We're kill it,

DeShawn: 37:08

D. Alright.

Skido: 37:08

It's my sis right here. That's what's

DeShawn: 37:10

up. Loving life.

Skido: 37:11

Love, that's what's up. Skeetles in the building. Let's go.

DeShawn: 37:14

In the building.